ROOTED IN LOVE ◽ ENCOURAGEMENT
I have a confession to make.
My husband and I don’t have any relatives close by, and sometimes I get jealous of people who live near family. I wonder what it might be like to be able to drop the kids off at their grandparents’ house so we could go on a date. Or send them for a sleepover and enjoy a quiet night at home. Heck, maybe even just grocery shopping alone. I have wished many times to have family closer to help us out with the kids.
But the more I think about it, I realize that I’m actually glad I don’t have that convenience. I’m glad I am with my kids all the time, even if I do nearly lose my sanity sometimes. I think about having the luxury of built-in babysitting, and I see how easy it would be to abuse that privilege or take it for granted. It might sound odd, but I’m grateful for our situation.
I am basically never away from my children, except for when I take them to the nursery at church. And call me crazy, but I’m perfectly happy with that. Since we don’t have a readily available person to babysit, we figure out ways to make everything family friendly. We’re forced to make everything fun, and we make lots of sweet memories too. Family time is all the time; and I think that’s really special.
Obviously, there are days where I just wish I could have a break. And I’m not knocking you if you do drop your kids off with their grandparents or aunt or whomever. By all means, if you have that resource, use it! There’s nothing wrong with that. I’m simply sharing my own thoughts.
When my kids are grown, I’ll have plenty of solo trips to the grocery store. I’ll have all the time in the world to go on a girls’ trip with my friends. My husband and I will be able to have date night whenever we want. But I will never get these years and days and moments back. I’ll never be able to go back and spend more time with my kids. I’ve only got today, right now, and I want to make the most of it.
Parenting can definitely be burdensome at times, but it’s also the biggest blessing.