ENCOURAGEMENT - july 2022 - rooted in love - midnight memories.jpg

There was supposed to be a meteor shower around midnight, and it was a clear night.  My husband and I put the kids to bed at their normal time, but then we woke them up around 11:30 and took them outside.  We all lay in the bed of our truck to stare up at the stars.  It was a warm night with only a slight breeze, so we were nice and cozy all snuggled up.  Ready to see some action in the sky. 

Well, the action never came.  We saw a few faint shooting stars here and there, but it wasn’t nearly as dazzling as we were expecting.  My husband and I did see one super bright and long one, but of course, the kids weren’t looking when it happened.  All in all, the meteor shower was a bust. 

But the experience was one I’ll never forget.  While we were lying there in the darkness, the kids were pretty sleepy at first.  So we started being silly and telling dumb jokes to keep them awake.  By the time we went inside, all of us were cracking up at nothing in particular.  That laughter is what I cherish most of all.  The memory of those innocent little giggles.  The feeling of having a smile spread across my face.  The small, warm hands pressed into mine.  That’s what I’ll remember. 

Sometimes we plan fun or grand adventures, and then they don’t pan out.  Or maybe we get stuck in the mundane routine of life without ever getting a break. 

But our memories don’t have to be big or spectacular to be wonderful.  They can consist of little sparks of joy here and there.  Shared laughs and smiles over inconsequential things.  The simple act of being together. 

I see so many moms who guilt themselves over not spending enough time with their kids.  Actually, I do the same thing all the time.  Which is crazy because I’m literally with them 24/7/365.  Why do we do that?  Why do we overlook all the amazing memories we make together and make ourselves feel bad? 

Spending time with your kids (or loved ones in general) doesn’t have to look like an adventure every day.  It doesn’t have to be a beach trip or a carnival or a day at the zoo.  It doesn’t have to be anything special at all.  Because just spending time together is special when you look back.  It can be as simple as reading a book and making silly voices.  Having a picnic in the yard.  Coloring together.  Building blocks.  Baking cookies. 

Quality time doesn’t have to be some well-planned or Pinterest-worthy thing.  It’s just doing life together.  Every day has the potential for memories made.  We just have to seize the opportunities.  And if things don’t go how we planned, we make lemonade out of lemons.  Trust me, kids can find the fun in any situation.  We just have to go with the flow and make the day our own. 

Looking back in 20 years, I probably won’t remember the shooting stars we saw.  I might not even remember why were lying outside in the middle of the night.  But I will remember the laughter and the silliness and the joy of being together.  Because love is what holds us together, and love is what I’ll remember. 

Midnight Memories
by Kaelin Scott