PRACTICAL PARENTING ◽ HOME
I follow a young mom on Instagram and had watched for months as she and her husband did a complete house remodel, she ran her business of sharing family outings and date nights for couples, she took care of her two little boys, and tried to maintain a happy face all the time while she was juggling all of these plates. I thought to myself that she surely was tired…and before long she admitted that she was struggling. Not only was she tired from all the activities, but she was panicked about the state of the world…and she realized she needed help.
This time of life, with kids at home distance learning, all the fears swirling over the virus (still), moms and dads trying to keep their jobs and homes intact, and yet still make time for romance and family life…say what? It’s daunting for all of us, no matter what age our kids are!
One thing is going to be the topic of this article this month, and that’s the encouragement to ask for help instead of staying quiet and trying to deal…
There’s no benefit from being a strong mom for everyone else but yourself.
There’s no reason to carry heaviness when you have friends willing to help.
There’s no cause for despair, because you KNOW the caregiver of all caregivers!
There’s no way you’re going to be able to do it all, so don’t even try.
There’s no good that comes from comparing your family to others.
Okay, now that that’s out of the way, how in the world do you unload, unleash, and unworry your crowded mind and weary body?
ASK for help. This is hard for mom, but it’s an imperative. If unloading the dishwasher puts you over the edge, hand that job off. If the never ending piles of laundry depress you, have a laundry party where everyone folds, puts away, and dances to music. Don’t continue to do all and be all…there is no winner in that kind of game!
CRY and pray…because He hears every heart cry of moms…and HE cares. Visualize rolling your heavy backpack of worries onto his shoulders, and then just holding his hand as you walk daily together and He carries the load.
TAKE time to read or listen the word, even if something else has to be left undone. If it’s only a one page devo a day, read it. If it’s one song you listen to alone in the shower, do it. If it’s an escape with your earbuds for a 15 min walk, ask for it and take it.
GIVE away some of what’s on your plate. You know how you share your food with your toddlers? Share your to-do list with your family. If everyone is overloaded, then sit down together and decide what can be done – erasing some of the to-do’s or bringing in help.
STOP comparing your kids, your home, your life, your clothes, your body to every other mom you talk to. Don’t talk with moms that make you feel less than…only visit with those that encourage you and lift you up!
Yes, we are strong women, we can do all things through Christ, we are mighty and all of that good stuff we want to be. But being mighty often means being humble, resting, acknowledging and receiving. Otherwise we mighty women end up bruised and broken…and sometimes for good.
Moms, I could say, “You’ve got this. You can do it.” But I feel that some of you don’t want to hear that, because you don’t want it and you don’t want to do it! And there’s NO SHAME in not being able to do it all. In fact, there’s great reward in letting things go and letting others and HIM in…to relieve your load.