REAL STORIES◽ ENCOURAGEMENT
Ready for Love
by Kristina Gomez
My husband and I talked for the first time by phone on July 25th, 2016 for two hours! Conversation flowed and there was no awkward silence. Before we said our good-byes, we decided to meet in person the next day. It seemed so simple!
Below is our story of grace, hope and love…
Joe and I had both tried online dating, him more than me. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to date because I feared the type of relationship I previously had. Since my divorce in 2010, I was totally focused on raising my two boys and establishing a household and career. I obtained a nursing degree to establish my career and completed years of counseling to forgive and heal. It took a lot of support and guidance to be a single parent.
The kids were finishing high school and needing Mom less. At 39 years old, I found myself telling my coworker a crazy idea that I wanted to begin to date. I went on a hike by myself the previous weekend and she said, “Joe would love to do that with you.” Joe was her boyfriend’s brother. It took a few months of me back and forth deciding if I wanted to date. But honestly, I know it was God softening my heart.
Joe was a 47-year old Christian man with no kids; he was financially stable, and ready for a wife. Nothing and no one had come for him in terms of dating. He had been waiting and praying, asking God, “If you want me to date, please bring her to me.” In June 2016, Joe was prayed for and encouraged that he would meet his wife by the end of the year. He didn’t know how that would happen, but he held onto faith. Not faith in that word, but faith in his Father.
I like to think while I was getting myself together - Joe was patiently waiting for me. As cliché as it sounds; it was an instant connection. One funny note is that after our first dinner date he asked me to call him when I got home to be sure I made it there safely.
Independent Kristina said, “It’s not that far, I can get home by myself.”
And the other part of me screamed out loud in my head, “He cares!”
I was ready to accept someone into my life to love.
Joe did all the right dating things and was an amazing boyfriend. I was so happy because I had learned a new love! We met each other’s parents, we arranged a family outing with the boys, and we talked a lot to discuss life and goals.
Joe and I dated for months. He then traditionally asked my dad for marriage and proposed in December. Exactly seven months after meeting, we married on February 26th, 2017.
We love being married. We have learned a lot about ourselves and each other through this process and a lot about His timing and care as we wait…